‘Reality is the manifestation of our consciousnesses. It is the choices we make create our personal world. We either
make the choices consciously or unconsciously. If we make it consciously, what
we want happens. If we are lazy, then our unconscious mind makes the choices
with its own version of fear and anxieties. And for ever we can blame the luck
and other factors for our joy or sufferings.
Richard Bandler gives the analogy
of bus for working of our consciousness. Driver is like conscious mind and the
bus is the unconscious mind. If driver is asleep, then the bus will go to any
place it wants and most of the time, the journey will be from one accident to
the other. Of course sometimes it may prove to be pleasant accidents, and we
will call it luck and invoke almighty for his blessings. But the bus where the
driver is asleep is a dangerous way of living. Most of us live our life in this
pathetic manner.
Another analogy is the child in a
room with all kinds of paints and painting materials. The child can pour the
paint all along, on himself or on the wall, scribbling everywhere. By mistake,
sometimes it may look good, mostly it will be unorganized chaotic strokes. But
if in the place of child, a master painter is present, he will end up creating
master pieces.
Three essential things to take
charge of my life are listed below:
1. Recognition that my life is in a mess. Without any
justification, and without any rationalization, when I look into my life, what I
find is that I am moving through the whims of pain, sorrow, anxiety and
jealousy. Constantly trying to prove and compete with everybody and nobody. Few
words of appreciation or rejection change my entire mood and emotional balance.
It is the sign that my life is in a mess.
2. Just like the child, it is I who created this mess. Except me
nobody is responsible for my miseries and heartache. I cannot put the blame on
anyone – be it my parents, friends and communities or any kind of associations.
Related with blood or filth, it is not others who managed to mess my life. It is
I and only I who is responsible for the mess that is my life.
3. Since I could create the mess, I only can clean up the
mess with proper understanding and discipline. The child has the
potentiality to become a master painter, provided it is willing to take steps
to sharpen the skills present in him. If one can truly understand the point one
and two, the third flows automatically. Though the third point looks very intimidating,
in fact it is the easiest part, provided we sincerely want to create the life
of our choice. Unfortunately this is the only short cut we have to move
forward.
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