Seeing is Believing- VI

What makes me happy? , What makes me sad? , What makes me angry? , What am I afraid of? , Which situations make me lose control?  Why?

Answering these questions without any justification, without any fear is a healthy exercise, the more we do better our life will be. 

Even if we want to, we can’t run away from our feelings. In fact, it is these emotions which give us the proof that we are alive. It is our emotions which are original, and we can have copy right over them. All other things – ideas, vision, beliefs, convictions, and rituals etc. – are borrowed and brainwashed products.

There are four basic emotions; all others are derivative of these fundamental emotions. Anger/Fear, Joy, Sorrow and Sex are the primitive, and the most original emotions. Fear and Anger are made up of the same stuff; they are the two sides of the same coin.

Every feeling has a definite purpose, if we are not aware of the purpose; we end up satisfying that feeling with wrong things. It may give some relief for some time, but eventually it will take its toll on us. For example, I feel lonely and I try to compensate it by watching a movie will be a stupid move, Kareena kapoor is not going to alleviate the loneliness. It may give temporary satisfaction, but it will grow stronger and will haunt me forever. Some people deal with loneliness by buying a dog (in USA, it is very common) and others by eating ice-cream or chocolate or pizza (at XIM, it is common).

There are eight so called bad feelings which are commonly experience by us:

Fear: It is a voice in you saying “I feel something bad might happen”.  

Stress: I feel that there is too much to do.   

Anger:  Something  is  happening  that  is  unfair  towards  me  or someone or something I care about.    

Sadness:  I have lost some someone or something that is important to me.   

Boredom: I do not have enough challenge in my life.   

Loneliness: I need more meaningful relationships.  

Guilt:  I have done something that is unfair to someone.    

Inadequacy: I feel that there is something wrong with me. 

The function of our feelings is not making our life miserable. They indicate what is good for our survival on this planet. Our brain cares little about our happiness but obsessed with our survival. Our brain was hard-wired when we were living in forest which was a hostile place for living. So it looks after our safety and it uses feelings to communicate with us. If we do not deal with our feeling as per its purpose, it will lead us to the secondary emotion which is known as ‘Frustration’. And if we continue to remain in the state of frustration without addressing the primary feeling, then we will be rewarded with tertiary feeling ‘Depression’.

Up to secondary level, things are within our control, if we manage to reach the third level then we need some self proclaimed expert’s help, of course he or she will charge for the help they provide.