Gossiping

Paraphrasing the opening statement of Michael Douglas in the movie wall-street one can emphatically say, “Gossiping is good, gossiping is right, gossiping works. Gossiping is an intellectual activity arising from the existential curiosity”.

Men of the past called women of their time gossip mongers, conveniently forgetting their contribution to gossiping. They said that women gossip because they have got nothing to do except the house hold works, whereas men busy running the government, fighting the enemy and winning bread for everyone. Today that kind of superficial explanation will not be tolerated since women too have joined the hunting ground; they are not only bread winners but also winning butter and jam.

So the art of gossiping is practiced by both men and women today. Yet, some feel guilty and others point fingers at the source of gossips and look down upon them.

Gossiping is not easy; you need fertile imagination and creative mind. It is seeing few dots and painting an attractive picture which will satisfy our primitive feelings. One need to project one’s own fears, desires anxieties, fantasies and insecurities on others and come up with convincing and credible story. For some it comes naturally where as others need to practice  day in and day out.

Successful gossipers have great professional activities; they can become a great story tellers, film directors, PR officers, spies, and heads of perception management firms.

Do not feel bad if you enjoy gossiping. It is a normal human behavior. Remember we gossip not only about our enemies but mostly about our friends. Speaking face to face is a risky affair; you might end up offending and breaking relationships.

Expressing one’s opinion is a must for every individual, if you keep everything within yourself, you might end up in asylum. Gossiping helps to express yourself spontaneously and at the same keeps the fragile friendships intact. If someone goes and complains about you for gossiping about him, do not worry, you can give new twist to what you said and interpret them creatively. Never forget, gossiping is an art.